You only fall in love because you"re trying to find and unite with that other opposite within you. In the final spiritual journey, you're not trying to find it in someone else; you are trying to balance it within yourself as your real identity.
In this New Age woman's search is being speeded up. Her search is not only to have the balance brought out by a personal relationship, but also in the deeper sense of her own individuality and identity, and this is where you get a little bit of growth, and growth is painful. That's the truth about everything — growing pains in physical growth and psychological growth to find out who you are.
The submissive, clichéd female patterns of the past, which had their place, are going to change in the New Age. The men are very upset by this change in the women's role because it upsets who they are as males, but they have to go through it with the women. Accept women as your equal. They and you must go through this change. You're both going to be more open to your other inner self. Instead of repressing this inner image, you will bring it out and balance it, as it should be, in the final divine and androgyne that Meher Baba is. In Himself He's perfect balance, perfect male and female. You can see that sometimes in the femininity of Meher Baba, it's as if He has both. Eventually we have to find that balance, and to achieve that means growth.
The more a woman feels her freedom and assertiveness (in the right way — remember there is a big difference between assertiveness and aggression), and feels that she has space to be creative in all directions, then also, the man responds. He shares the gain that she makes, and she shares the gain that he makes when he develops his feminine side. His part is to open up, to be more communicative, for example, to show more of his emotions, to recognize he has feelings, to learn to share feelings with the people close to him. Eventually you both become more intuitive, and that’s where you both have to head.